mikaDon’t want to talk about Bernard Moore anymore? Fine. Let’s talk about Mika Brzezinski ’89. (Previous discussion here.)

For years, feminists have been insisting that we women could have it all. But since diapers, bras and babies have been seen as symbols of oppression from the Old World run by the likes of Don Draper, there hasn’t been enough written about women like me who want to work like hell, rise to the top of my profession, and then rush home to be with the kids and also work to make my husband happy and build his life.

For me, having it all doesn’t mean having the corner office at work and a penthouse at home if there aren’t kids running around as I’m trying to cook my husband something special.

For those who still want to take off their bras and burn them, so be it. But I’d rather find one to wear that is pretty. And when it comes off, its not because it’s being thrown into the fireplace.

Can you imagine what the reaction would have been if I (or some other non-liberal man) had written this as advice to female Williams students?

But I am speaking to the women who DO want to have a family and consider a lifelong relationship valuable, rather than a badge of weakness or a sign that she missed the boat on the women’s rights movement.

I am not afraid to say my relationship with my man is important, even vital, to who I am as a person.

A woman shouldn’t feel the need to shy away from wanting to build a world around a man she loves and do whatever she can to make him happy and whole –as he should for her.

The Record ought to do a story on this topic and interview Williams faculty. Would a single one agree with Mika? Interviewing women in Mika’s class (like my wife, also ’89) would be interesting as well. My comments are the same as they were before.

Brzezinski is exactly right. I have never met an Eph woman who reports that she had kids too soon. I have met Eph women who had kids at the right time. There are many Eph women who regret having waited too long. I suspect that Brzezinski’s has many female Eph friends in that category.

Needless to say, the marriage and childbearing decisions of Ephs would make for a great senior thesis. When do Ephs get married? When do they have children? What do they, decades later, say about those choices?

Does Brzezinsk believe what she is saying or has she determined that defending “traditional” female dreams is a brilliant book-promotion strategy? Both, I think.

Read the whole thing.

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